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[restfulraccoon]

Made a side blog 🌶️💗

[neechees]

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[raayllum]

one final thought to take into consideration because it was, admittedly, my third thought upon seeing The Post:

i will be sightly surprised if the sharing of private DMs doesn't irreparably damage the fandom and/or OP's online relationships in general. i don't think that was the intention or is even a concern of OP and co. upon making and supporting the post, but i do think it's somewhat of an inevitable outcome when so much basic respect / decency has been tossed out the window.

there's clearly a general culture of paranoia that's taken root in the fandom in multiple ways, and i'd include myself in that. i absolutely felt paranoid for months, and while i ended up being right to a degree of what i was paranoid over, that'd seeped in in general way before that and (hopefully) beyond what was grounded in reality, even if i continually beat it off with a stick and didn't engage with it.

because if the new litmus test is not just "you piss this person off enough or do [xyz whatever is labelled or is bad behaviour enough], they'll not only make a public callout post about you" (which while that can be very crappy, i do think is more in 'fair game grey zone' & would've preferred paraphrasing in every way imaginable; i also think it would've made the post a cleaner, more compelling argument in terms of Controlling the Narrative cause yeah, call me a condescending bitch, i'm sure i have been, that's on me to work on /gen, you didn't have to violate me to do that) but, "if they get pissed enough, they will leak your private messages publicly for everyone to read" is like...

you know this person. you have presumably DM'd them. maybe you haven't always agreed, maybe you have. and you know there's also a large swath of people who likewise enable, encourage, and support the leaking of private DMs. are you really going to feel like you can Trust any of them, especially in an online space where you're sending DMs all the time? and they might Say they never would, but are you really going to believe them when they already have?

and moreover, if you do disagree and think — on principle maybe, because maybe you also think i'm asshole, which again, Fair Enough (nor should how you treat or advocate for people be based on whether you personally like/approve of them & their actions anyway) — that leaking the DMs was shitty, are you going to feel like you can express that and/or leave and break things off without the same thing happening to you? and if you do, and it doesn't, are you going to be able to not constantly look over your shoulder, wondering if they/unknown amount of others are checking (stalking) your blog(s) at all times for any whiff of unease?

are you going to second hand question everything you post or reblog — say about another issue or relationship in your life, the life of someone else you know/love — in case it's taken poorly? are you going to sit here, ruminating, recoiling, over how they might link it back to their truly unrelated situation, and that'll be what tips them over the edge (not just of disagreeing with you or being like "yeah that take is reductive or wrong" which is a subjective practice anyway, but) into leaking your Truly Personal Shit? are you going to worry about every DM you send, and have retroactive anxiety over messages you don't entirely remember, but think maybe you could've handled or phrased better, and what if it's worse than you remember, because what if that all gets leaked and your privacy is dead on arrival before the body's even hit the grave, because now you're doing self surveillance all the time to try and make sure this person, or people, won't/can't dehumanize and violate you?

are you ever going to feel safe in the spaces you've cultivated for yourself again?

because that's the question i think the broader fandom at large will have to wrestle with, if this is the acceptable precedent

because if this was (i'm assuming) the most direct of the supposed vagueblogging (i don't know what else has been tossed in there by them, i went back the other day to check and think there were 4 posts and maybe 5 tags overall over as many months, but they could be tossing way more stuff in bc of. wrongful attribution):

and it was about me reflecting on a separate, different old friendship breakup that happened a couple years ago around christmas bc a friend of mine had just had one, then like. what are we doing here?

which is to say: i don't think OP has to remove the post. keep it up, that's your prerogative, it's your blog and you can post what you like. clearly it's been very cathartic for people and hopefully they're getting their anger out in a way that will make their lives easier going forward. however, i do think you should remove the DMs from the post. like hey, you were mad, you were pissed and hurt (honestly understandably so; i didn't think receiving a message going "btw i thought about our relationship patterns and no longer want to be friends / i'm blocking you" immediately followed by the block, or making myself sit in anxiety waiting to see how you'd respond was worth it, but like yeah, i can see how that wasn't ideal at the very least either) but i don't think leaking DMs was/would ever be okay. paraphrase my shit if you will, make me look even (or just as) worse, if you want.

but if you want people to trust you, you might have to reprove you can Be trustworthy, and that means Not Leaking Private Information/Conversations

[kiatnirans]

I'm very interested so this is my first poll

[alatismeni-theitsa]

An obsessive Patrochlilles (from the game Hades) shipper "who wants to ship in peace" just put me in a "racist wall of fame" post for saying Greek gods are... ethnically Greek . Imagine being so blinded by rage that you don't know what "ethnically" means 😂 Guyssss your ethnos is not dependent on your appearance, k? Anyone can be ethnically Greek!?!?! (As I also explain in the text they screenshoted)

(It's extra funny because "ethnos" is a Greek word and like everything else Greek, this person didn't research it 😂)

Imagine being hurt because these aaawful Greeks ruin your uwu cute gay ship (which HAS to be the Hades version only for some reason) with their silly concerns about being treated as an interchangeable "race" and culture by Western empires for a few centuries now 😱 We are extremely sorry to ruin your online nsfw shipping experience with our ancient heroes because we don't want real Greeks to continue being treated like shit, please forgive us🙏

And Of Course, on top of everything, their tags include the words "Classics fandom". I couldn't make this shit up if I tried 😂

[galarglory]

Would n'yall hate me if I depression disappeared for two days then came back & decided to write Piers?

[denimjacketgf]

hello. tumblr just. randomly deleted like. Half of my sideblogs??? theyre just GONE?????

[need-him-pregnant-poll]

I'm sorry to report some people are taking this way too seriously and making spam accounts to do extra votes for the character(s) they want to win. Anon has gotten followed by several at this point and that's all the accounts have on them plus a handful of other posts and a couple of followed accounts in order to look less sketchy. :/ Some even have a post saying that's what it's for. Win by the might of your battle, not your sneaky clone account tactics!!!

I have no real way to combat this, but if yall are one of the people resorting to this method, I am deeply ashamed. Campaign as hard as you want, spread the posts to all your friends, sure, but don't make multiple accounts so you can vote multiple times. That's dishonest and disheartening to me as the runner of this poll.

[phoutube]

vampire-email -> phoutube

happy pride month. new phan url

[geddy-leesbian]

plz stop spamming my inbox asking for money I do not have any

[cs-cabin-and-crew]

I WAS WRITING ON AO3 LIKE TWO NIGHTS AGO MESSING WITH MY MORZAN FANFIC!

BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO WRITE ON THERE SO I WAS JUST TESTING THINGS AND ACCIDENTALLY POSTED IT COMPLETELY UNFINISHED WITH ONLY LIKE 5 SENTENCES!

I DELETED IT AND CALLED IT A NIGHT.

BUT APPARENTLY I DIDNT DELETE IT AND SOME USER KINDLY CORRECTED ME ON HOW TO TAG FANFICS ON AO3.

IM SUPER GRATEFUL THAT SOMEONE HELPED A SISTER OUT, BUT WHAT THE HELL AO3??? I THOUGHT I DELETED IT

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[dionysus-complex]

so i did in fact make a sideblog for talking about things related to kink, not really for explicit nsfw content/erotica but more for thoughts/writings/art etc or any semi-risqué reblogs that could get this blog flagged. it's basically empty at the moment but in the future that will probably be the main place I discuss such things given the more public nature of this blog. I am willing to share the url with trusted mutuals if you message me to ask!

[sah1x1s-archived]

[fatepowered]

it's friyay! i am gonna try to do some writing this weekend. in the meantime if you want to plot or chat, hit me up on discord!

[hyperfocusthusly]

Seeing that one of your faves has deactivated is actually the worst

[robotgirldisc]

Robot girls roleplaying in each other's DMs as porn bots